Four thieves who used internet dating sites to find their victims before drugging and robbing them have been sentenced to prison on Wednesday by a Swedish court. … Read More
Dating: What to say about my kid?
Hello Cary,I am a single parent looking to get back into dating, and perhaps even to meet someone that I fall madly in love with. As I have not had much luck out there in the real world I have decided to try out online dating websites. I have an ethical dilemma. My child has a mild intellectual disability. Obviously there are men out there who would be willing to date a woman who already has a child, but when should I mention that my child is not what they may expect (in many wonderful ways, I think). If I mention this upfront, I doubt anyone will ever want to get to know me at all, but if I don’t mention it up front I feel like I am being misleading.Thank you for any insight you may offer,Single For Nine Years and CountingDear Single,I don’t think you are being misleading if, in talking with someone you have just met, you don’t immediately mention that your child has a mild intellectual disability.When should you mention it? You should mention it when you know someone well enough that you feel comfortable mentioning it. As to how to present yourself in this online dating forum, I would avoid wherever possible the tendency to list your attributes and deficiencies, as though you could be reduced to a checklist.Continue Reading… … Read More
Matchmaker, matchmaker make me a reality TV match
All week, NBC has been promoting its new dating series “Ready for Love” by promising that it will “revolutionize” the genre, part of NBC’s ongoing strategy to denude the word “revolution” of all meaning. (“Revolution” is also the name of NBC’s fairly popular, totally execrable, not at all revolutionary TV show. Current tagline: “Join the Revolution.” Yes, every single person who has been part of any revolution, anywhere, at any time is rolling over in their grave). “Ready for Love,” which premiered last night in a two hour installment that felt even longer, is not only not a “revolution” of the dating genre, it is not even an evolution or advancement, just a mishmash. Put “The Bachelor,” “Millionaire Matchmaker,” “The Voice,” “The Dating Game,” Giuliana Rancic and a studio audience in a bowl, mash, slash, pound, and serve. If you close your eyes, it tastes pretty much like “The Bachelor.”Continue Reading… … Read More
My year on Match.com
Heroes come in all circumstances and ages. The prophet tells us, “Your old will have visions; your young will dream dreams.” Elderly women in a retirement community in Mill Valley protested the war in Iraq on a busy thoroughfare with placards every Friday for years. A man I know of 22, halfway to a medical degree, is pursuing ballet dreams in New York City. Some people my age — extreme middle-age — train for marathons, or paddle down the Amazon, skydive, or adopt. They publish for the first time.Me? I may have done the most heroic thing of all. I went on Match.com for a year.The thing was, I had just done something brave, which was to write a memoir with my son, tour the East Coast together, and appear on stages before hundreds of people at a time. But one dream coming true doesn’t mean you give up on other lifelong dreams. You’re not dream-greedy to want, say, a cool career and a mate. And having realized this one long-shot dream with my grown child gave me the confidence to try something even harder: to date.Continue Reading… … Read More
Survey: Half of all young people know a victim of sexual assault or domestic violence
A survey released Wednesday by the advocacy coalition No More found that 51 percent of young people ages 15 to 22 know someone who has experienced domestic violence or sexual assault. The survey, one of the first of its kind to quantify dating violence among young people, found that 44 percent of…
New female-friendly dating app promises to be better ‘mousetrap’
Not long after her husband left her “to live in a van down by the river” in Idaho, as she puts it, Elissa Shevinsky thought it was high time for a better mouse trap. Or rather, a better dating website. The thirty-something app developer who divides her time between New York and…
